If you're a fan of classic television, you've seen the TV couples happily sleeping in separate beds. You may have thought this was nothing more than a way of keeping things G-rated. However, sleeping in separate beds or rooms is a choice made by many real-life modern couples.
To learn about why couples do this and their experiences with doing so, we surveyed 800 people:
- Half of the participants are in healthy relationships with their significant others, with whom they once shared a bed but now sleep separate.
- The other half are in long-term relationships with their significant others and currently a share bed with them.
We asked survey respondents questions about their sleep and relationship qualities and their opinions about sharing – or not sharing – a bed with their S.O.
To summarize the results, we learned:
- Sleeping separately improved sleep quality and reduced stress.
- Sleeping together resulted in healthier sex lives and happier relationships.
So … do you value sleep quality and low stress levels or intimacy and happiness? Eek, talk about an impossible question.
But what if you could, over time, have both? We’re not in the couples therapy business, but our primary takeaway is that couples may want to sleep separately over the short term to handle specific issues, such as conflicting work schedules. However, resolving any temporary issues and eventually returning to a shared bed may be the best option for many couples.
Let’s get into some of the key insights!
Note: There is no one-size-fits-all way of sleeping. None of our statements should be considered medical or psychological advice. All worrisome sleep, health or relationship issues should be discussed with a medical or psychological professional.